Divorce is a wealth event, not just a life event. Most people don’t realize that until they’ve already lost money, time, and peace of mind. In this episode, I sit down with Certified Divorce Financial Analyst Jamie Lima to expose the myths, lay out the real math, and give you the playbook to walk away without regret. @stoyhall
Jamie and I hit the hard truths:
• Divorce rates spike during recessions, and most people are financially unprepared.
• Alimony is rarely forever—most states push rehabilitative support, not lifetime checks.
• The 50/50 split is a trap. A judge may stamp two $500K assets “equal,” but taxes make a 401(k) worth far less than home equity.
• Attorneys litigate. They don’t build wealth strategies. That’s where a CDFA makes the difference.
• Prenups and postnups aren’t just for the rich—they’re marriage insurance.
• Mediation with a plan saves money. Litigation without strategy bleeds you dry.
Jamie shares his own mistakes—writing 144 alimony checks, letting his lawyer drive the process, and paying the price. He explains where clients waste the most money, how emotional emails and texts drain accounts, and why you need to think like the CEO of your life, not a passenger.
We give you the first moves before you file:
Inventory income, expenses, assets, liabilities.
Secure access to accounts and freeze if needed.
Pull a 3-bureau credit report from annualcreditreport.com.
Protect your health—divorce will drain you if you let it.
Build your team: CDFA, attorney, therapist, and a support system that won’t disappear.
Finally, Jamie previews his Secure Split platform and free toolkit, built to help clients model alimony, child support, pensions, and taxes with clean data instead of guesswork.
This is not theory. It’s battle-tested strategy from someone who’s lived it and now fights so others don’t repeat his mistakes.
Watch the full episode, drop your questions, and share it with someone who needs the truth about divorce and money.
Timestamp
00:00 Why divorce is a wealth event
02:00 Survival mode vs planning for life after divorce
05:00 Myths: alimony forever, “never marry,” bad advice online
08:00 How alimony really works and what drives it
10:00 The 50/50 split trap and the tax drag nobody talks about
12:00 Why attorneys shouldn’t run the money
14:00 Prenups and postnups as “marriage insurance”
17:00 What a CDFA actually does in divorce strategy
21:00 Where people lose the most money in divorce
23:00 Emotional traps that sabotage smart decisions
24:00 First steps before filing: docs, accounts, credit, freezes
27:00 Build your team and protect your health
31:00 Standing up to bullies and mindset shifts
33:00 Secure Split preview: new tools for divorce planning
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